How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want

Book - 2014
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You are a mind reader, born with an extraordinary ability to understand what others think, feel, believe, want, and know. It's a sixth sense you use every day, in every personal and professional relationship you have. At its best, this ability allows you to achieve the most important goal in almost any life: connecting, deeply and intimately and honestly, to other human beings. At its worst, it is a source of misunderstanding and unnecessary conflict, leading to damaged relationships and broken dreams.

How good are you at knowing the minds of others? How well can you guess what others think of you, know who really likes you, or tell when someone is lying? How well do you really understand the minds of those closest to you, from your spouse to your kids to your best friends? Do you really know what your coworkers, employees, competitors, or clients want?

In this illuminating exploration of one of the great mysteries of the human mind, University of Chicago psychologist Nicholas Epley introduces us to what scientists have learned about our ability to understand the most complicated puzzle on the planet--other people--and the surprising mistakes we so routinely make. Why are we sometimes blind to the minds of others, treating them like objects or animals? Why do we sometimes talk to our cars, or the stars, as if there is a mind that can hear us? Why do we so routinely believe that others think, feel, and want what we do when, in fact, they do not? And why do we believe we understand our spouses, family, and friends so much better than we actually do? Mindwise will not turn other people into open books, but it will give you the wisdom to revolutionize how you think about them--and yourself.

Publisher: New York :, Alfred A. Knopf,, 2014.
Edition: First edition.
ISBN: 9780307595911
Branch Call Number: 152.41 EP
Characteristics: xviii, 242 pages : illustrations ; 25 cm
Alternative Title: Mind wise


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ArapahoeStaff20 Jan 25, 2017

This book outlined the fact that we can't rely on inferences, stereotypes and guesses to understand people. The truth lies in personal and meaningful contact and asking open-minded questions.

bubbazannetti Mar 15, 2014

An OK read. Interesting psychological research results. The Asian bigotry study of the western United States done mid last century is interesting. The observation that individuals when confronted with a bias respond differently then when queried how they would respond hypothetically. I found this extremely insightful since I have never accepted the oft drummed notion that our country is a bastion of bigoted people. There certainly are specific examples but extremely small. The long repeated prattle that my country is a racist nation is a complete lie! Taken individually the people have a strong ethical fiber. The agenda driven people that have for decades attempted to inject the racist meme into our collective consciousness are delusional. It has worked to divide not unite. It is plain that this narrow minded campaign degrades the depth and greatness of human spirit.


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