How to Date Men When You Hate Men

How to Date Men When You Hate Men

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From New Yorker and Onion writer and comedian Blythe Roberson, How to Date Men When You Hate Men is a comedy philosophy book aimed at interrogating what it means to date men within the trappings of modern society. Blythe Roberson's sharp observational humor is met by her open-hearted willingness to revel in the ugliest warts and shimmering highs of choosing to live our lives amongst other humans. She collects her crushes like ill cared-for pets, skewers her own suspect decisions, and assures readers that any date you can mess up, she can top tenfold. And really, was that date even a date in the first place? With sections like Real Interviews With Men About Whether Or Not It Was A Date; Good Flirts That Work; Bad Flirts That Do Not Work; and Definitive Proof That Tom Hanks Is The Villain Of You've Got Mail, How to Date Men When You Hate Men is a one stop shop for dating advice when you love men but don't like them.
Publisher: New York :, Flatiron Books,, 2019.
Edition: First edition.
Copyright Date: ©2018
ISBN: 9781250193421
Branch Call Number: 818.602 RO
Characteristics: 272 pages ; 20 cm


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Mar 07, 2020

This book was very easy to read and there were some good laughs. Nothing particularly deep or super insightful, but that wasn’t it’s intention imho. It was a fun and candid discussion about dating dudes in this day and age. Like having brunch and venting with your best friend.

Dec 25, 2019

I hate men as much as the next guy, but this book was shallow and not funny. You might want to pick up "Shrill" or "Bad Feminist."

Dec 05, 2019

People have had mixed reactions to this book, but I enjoyed it a lot! This is at least partially due to having been warned that it’s less a ~hard hitting analysis~ and more odd and nihilistic jokes about how crappy it is to try to date within the patriarchy, but that turned out to be exactly what I needed. Roberson writes about her own experiences, as well as the structural power imbalances and effed up cultural dating expectations we have about dating, specifically about women who date men.

Roberson is pretty clear that the book is mostly aimed at and centered around her own demographic (cishet, middle class, able-bodied, 20/30-something white women), but is clear that this is largely due to not feeling qualified to meaningfully analyze other types of experiences, and she does her best to use inclusive language and point out her own privilege whenever possible. Considering the tone of the book, I felt better about this than I would have if her aim was to be more critically thorough. A lot of the jokes rest on making fun of herself, and I found myself frequently reading them aloud to the friends I was spending the weekend with.

Sep 07, 2019

Hot garbage, following no meaningful storyline

Feb 23, 2019

Unfortunately the best part of this book is the title. It's all downhill from there. A confused book that's not sure if it's self-help, pop-culture analysis, or navel-gazing memoir. As a fellow feminist millennial, I cringed because her self-absorption only fulfills that stereotype of our age group. Glad I didn't buy it!


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Dec 17, 2019

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