I Miss You When I Blink

I Miss You When I Blink


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"Mary Laura Philpott thought she'd cracked the code: Always be right, and you'll always be happy. But once she'd completed her life's to-do list (job, spouse, house, babies--check!), she found that instead of feeling content and successful, she felt anxious. Lost. Stuck in a daily grind of overflowing calendars, grueling small talk, and sprawling traffic. She'd done everything "right," but she felt all wrong. What's the worse failure, she wondered: smiling and staying the course, or blowing it all up and running away? And are those the only options? In this memoir-in-essays full of spot-on observations about home, work, and creative life, Philpott takes on the conflicting pressures of modern adulthood with wit and heart. She offers up her own stories to show that identity crises don't happen just once or only at midlife; reassures us that small, recurring personal re-inventions are both normal and necessary; and advises that if you're going to faint, you should get low to the ground first. Most of all, Philpott shows that when you stop feeling satisfied with your life, you don't have to burn it all down and set off on a transcontinental hike (unless you want to, of course). You can call upon your many selves to figure out who you are, who you're not, and where you belong. Who among us isn't trying to do that? Like a pep talk from a sister, I Miss You When I Blink is the funny, poignant, and deeply affecting book you'll want to share with all your friends, as you learn what Philpott has figured out along the way: that multiple things can be true of us at once--and that sometimes doing things wrong is the way to do life right"--
Publisher: New York :, Atria,, 2019.
Edition: First Atria Books hardcover edition.
Copyright Date: ©2019
ISBN: 9781982102807
Branch Call Number: 305.2442092 P571P
Characteristics: xii, 276 pages ; 22 cm


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Jul 24, 2020

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Sep 01, 2019

A word of advice to those who set out to read this book: Consume it in moderate doses, a few essays at a time, then set it aside for a while before returning to it again, in several servings. My enjoyment of it was less than I expected and I think the fault was mine. It's like an entire meal where every course is another version of the same thing; even the famed Chinese meal of 12 courses all featuring Peking Duck can be overkill. A collection of essays like this would have been better sipped and sampled.
Philpott certainly hits all the right notes: insightful, self-deprecating, intensely personal, droll, worldly-wise. And for a reader like myself (Type-A driven, verging on compulsive perfectionist) every note rings true and relevant.

Aug 17, 2019

Picked this up thinking it was a novel. Was surprised it was a memoir and having no background really on Mary Laura Philpott I wasn't sure if I was going to read it. I picked it up one day to read a few chapters and decide if I would want to read the entire thing. Well I found it engaging right off the bat. It was such a brutal honest look at everyday life experiences. I related to so much of it and found it funny and bittersweet. So glad I opened it up and started reading!


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