Quiet

Quiet

The Power of Introverts in A World That Can't Stop Talking

Book - 2012
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This book demonstrates how introverted people are misunderstood and undervalued in modern culture, charting the rise of extrovert ideology while sharing anecdotal examples of how to use introvert talents to adapt to various situations. At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. Although they are often labeled "quiet," it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society, from van Gogh's sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer. Filled with indelible stories of real people, this book shows how dramatically we undervalue introverts, and how much we lose in doing so. Taking the reader on a journey from Dale Carnegie's birthplace to Harvard Business School, from a Tony Robbins seminar to an evangelical megachurch, the author charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal in the twentieth century and explores its far-reaching effects. She talks to Asian-American students who feel alienated from the brash, backslapping atmosphere of American schools. She questions the dominant values of American business culture, where forced collaboration can stand in the way of innovation, and where the leadership potential of introverts is often overlooked. And she draws on cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience to reveal the differences between extroverts and introverts. She introduces us to successful introverts, from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Finally, she offers advice on everything from how to better negotiate differences in introvert-extrovert relationships to how to empower an introverted child to when it makes sense to be a "pretend extrovert." This book has the ability to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how introverts see themselves.
Publisher: New York :, Crown Publishers,, [2012]
Edition: First edition.
Copyright Date: ©2012
ISBN: 9780307352149
0307352145
Branch Call Number: 155.232 CA
Characteristics: x, 333 pages ; 25 cm

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JCLRachelW Mar 27, 2020

This carefully researched and gently worded look into introverts is much needed in today's loud world. Susan didn't create an "us vs them" atmosphere between introverts and extroverts but a method of nurturing understanding so we can all appreciate each others' unique abilities.

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kwsmith
Dec 01, 2019

The first half of this book dissects how introverts are different and shows how introverts are great at so many different things. The last part of the book descends into dull pop-psychology, discussing interpersonal conflicts involving introverts in marriages and parental situations.

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1aa
Nov 28, 2019

A terrific and much needed re-assessment of introversion! Alas I fear the people who most need to learn from this work will be the one's rather unlikely to read (or listen) to it.
The reader of the audiobook is excellent - a clear, smooth voice, but doesn't modulate volume much and can sound, if listened to for too long, that it can put one asleep.
There are so many sound points made that its pointless to list them all; its a very useful book, ultimately for introverts to not bother trying to alter their inclinations too much, and for others to modify their behavior and attitudes to get along better. Its a must read for managers and educators.

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Indoorcamping
Oct 28, 2019

Useful, especially if you haven’t heard the author on a million podcasts (including her own). Otherwise the information is not really all that new. But useful and important if you happen to be an introvert and need justification and instruction for the way you are. It’s easy to read although I could the end tended to drag on a bit. Either that or I got tired of reading about introverts. When you live it, you don’t need it explained. And if you’re old enough, you’ve learned a million coping mechanisms so this isn’t new. But there is so much research and stories and facts and examples and motivating behaviors to help change what you can change and accept what you cannot.

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Inga57
May 15, 2019

Kansas City Downtowners Book Group Read
Reminiscent of material that was my constant companion for thirty years of my career, Quiet, brought me back to Personal Development Trainers Zig Ziglar, Tommy Hopkins, Wayne Dyer, Dennis Waitley, etc. Whether it was via tapes in my car, live seminars, or the books on my nightstand; positive extrovert energy was my working mantra for this then introvert gal. "Fake it till you make it" is a Zig Ziglar lesson that has stayed with me for many, many years.

As Cain teaches in Quiet, the lessons of Dale Carnegie can be acquired if a person is a complaint enough. Practice, rehearse, work it, make it believable, even when you would rather be in your own room sitting with your cats and reading books in complete silence.

Well researched, well written, buy the book, highlight passages that resonate with you, and take advantage of the resources the author has supplied. But keep in mind that the world needs both introverts and extroverts and those of us right in the middle.

Groszerita Mar 11, 2019

Susan Cain does a marvelous job of advocating for introverts. This is a must read for all introverts.

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Gigi76
Feb 06, 2019

Well, if I didn’t know it before, I do now...I’m an introvert! But perhaps it’s a self-selecting bunch who reads this book. The author Susan Cain, made famous from her TED talk, makes a spirited case for the value of introverts. One gets the gist early on, however it’s nice to hear, and the topic is explored using various psychology studies and personal anecdotes. Some of the topics include the differences with extroverts, the complexities of nature versus nurture, and culture. It’s not always a fast read but it is a worthwhile one, and I especially liked her discussions around work, relationships, and raising introverted children. Susan Cain is on a mission and her passion for her subject extends to helping introverts feel better about themselves and to discover their own passion projects. Now let’s hope I don’t just use this book as an excuse to feel better about staying home.

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collazom
Nov 28, 2018

Diverse personalities share a number of traits even when they are so very different. Susan Cain describes the personality of introverts versus extroverts, which seem to be categorized as totally different one from the other. Her analyses concludes on how these "very different" personalities converge in moments not considered by most.

Susan Cain has written a great book for us to gain insight into introverts and why they/we act differently to extroverts – about a third of us are introverts. It is a must-read for anyone that is an introvert, or who lives or works with introverts. Fascinating stuff – and useful! (submitted by SC)

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telger
Aug 26, 2018

Quiet is a life changing book for me! I feel liberated that it’s ok to be an introvert! And makes me proud that some of the greatest minds are introverts!! So I’m in good company!

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ArapahoeMaryA Oct 31, 2019

Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.

Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

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andreareads
Aug 17, 2015

We perceive talkers as smarter than quiet types – even though grade-point averages and SAT and intelligence test scores reveal this perception to be inaccurate. In one experiment in which two strangers met over the phone, those who spoke more were considered more intelligent, better looking, and more likable.

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andreareads
Jul 29, 2015

Probably the most common – and damaging - misunderstanding about personality type is that introverts are antisocial and extroverts are pro-social. But as we’ve seen, neither formulation is correct; introverts and extroverts are _differently_ social. What psychologists call “the need for intimacy” is present in introverts and extroverts alike. In fact, people who value intimacy highly don’t tend to be, as the noted psychologist David Buss puts it, “the loud, outgoing, life-of-the-party extrovert.” They are more likely to be someone with a select group of close friends, who prefers “sincere and meaningful conversations over wild parties.”

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andreareads
Jul 29, 2015

Open-plan offices have been found to reduce productivity and impair memory. They’re associated with high staff turnover. They make people sick, hostile, unmotivated, and insecure. Open-plan workers are more likely to suffer from high blood pressure and elevated stress levels and to get the flu; they argue more with their colleagues; they worry about coworkers eavesdropping on their phone calls and spying on their computer screens.

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andreareads
Jul 29, 2015

We tend to forget that there’s nothing sacrosanct about learning in large group classrooms, and that we organize students this way not because it’s the best way to learn but because it’s cost-efficient, and what else would we do with our children while the grown-ups are at work? If your child prefers to work autonomously and socialize one-on-one, there’s nothing wrong with her; she just happens not to fit the prevailing model.

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Jmarie22
Jun 13, 2014

"Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you're supposed to."

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